Insightful article Kate. I see my bullshit as the sad stories and emotions I have, as a meaning-making machine. It’s about the ego wanting to be right; yet making peace, is about being in the moment and collapsing my concerns (bs) and just flowing and creating from that space of nothing.
Really hilarious and so true, thanks Kate. My brother sent me a photo of himself reading Mark Mason's book "The Art of Not Giving a Fuck". Reading your piece reminded me of that image, but I agree - usually that uncomfortable trigger inside catalyzes you towards your own growth, pushing you to realize something inside yourself. If the scenario is Cluster B - yup, bail and get the F*out :-)
We won't give up our addiction until we get to the real root. We want to project our guilt onto others so we can pretend to be innocent.
We know about garden variety projection. We don't want to, for example, deal with our anger, so we see it in others.
Then there is existential guilt that drives us and we can't even access. Philosphers and quantum physicists have all pointed to an underlying reality of connections. Who shattered that oneness? They did. I am innocent; they're guilty.
Wow. Were you just inside my head? I sure need this, but far too immature (at age 65, but never developed much beyond 15) to really internalize this like I know I should. I shall aspire. Thank you for the wisdom!
Spellcheck let you down in the tenth paragraph.
Probably the most useful, albeit uncomfortable things anyone has ever told me:
1. A Narcissist is someone who fails to understand how much more important I am than they are.
2. Disrespect is the failure to admire me.
3. Gaslighting is the failure to adhere to my narrative interpretation of events.
4. Bullying is the failure to do what I want you to do, and then shut up about it.
5. Reversing the victim is the failure to perform a public act of submission towards me.
Once one introduces those concepts to oneself, and actually questions one's own motives, it puts a small dent in your own BS.
Absolutely fantastic article. I needed this today. Thank you for your contribution.
Likewise and seconded.
Good article. One thing though, if you let people who are close to you get away with too much bullshit they'll keep doing it.
Sometimes, you do need to establish no tolerance boundaries for obvious bullshit. I know this isn't a mind-blowing revelation but it's worth saying.
But for the majority of people on the periphery of your life, agreed, avoid the energy sink of taking their bullshit seriously.
Great point.
Insightful article Kate. I see my bullshit as the sad stories and emotions I have, as a meaning-making machine. It’s about the ego wanting to be right; yet making peace, is about being in the moment and collapsing my concerns (bs) and just flowing and creating from that space of nothing.
Really hilarious and so true, thanks Kate. My brother sent me a photo of himself reading Mark Mason's book "The Art of Not Giving a Fuck". Reading your piece reminded me of that image, but I agree - usually that uncomfortable trigger inside catalyzes you towards your own growth, pushing you to realize something inside yourself. If the scenario is Cluster B - yup, bail and get the F*out :-)
Bloody brilliant Kate! It makes me wonder what the catalyst was for this wisdom piece. Cathartic to read as I imagine it was cathartic to write!
Excellent article, Kate.
"Their bullshit is a drug."
We won't give up our addiction until we get to the real root. We want to project our guilt onto others so we can pretend to be innocent.
We know about garden variety projection. We don't want to, for example, deal with our anger, so we see it in others.
Then there is existential guilt that drives us and we can't even access. Philosphers and quantum physicists have all pointed to an underlying reality of connections. Who shattered that oneness? They did. I am innocent; they're guilty.
And so the sad game you describe continues.
Love this. I, too, have spent too much time trying to understand others' nonsense, fix it, or adjust myself to accommodate it.
No more! Begone!
You may keep your bullsh*t, and I will keep my distance.
Wow. Were you just inside my head? I sure need this, but far too immature (at age 65, but never developed much beyond 15) to really internalize this like I know I should. I shall aspire. Thank you for the wisdom!
That's not a surprise. This is going to get only worse. 2025, 2026, 2027…......
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